I need your ideas on how to protect kids from a former spouse that has gone into a new fundie religion. NOTE: This is not my family, all is well – yeah!
Names and other information are changed to protect the innocent. I will use gender neutral names because it’s not about sex.
I have a friend; let’s call him or her “Pat”. Pat used to be married to Sam. They got divorced a couple of years ago and spend almost equal time with the two kids – Riley (8) and Payton (12). Everything was going well, until Sam joined a new church. It’s one of those hard core fundie churches. They read their version of the bible literally and tell you what you have to do all of the time. Sam is now spending a lot of time trying to get the kids to join in the madness.
Pat does not want the kids to thinks the same way Sam does and is not sure how to stop it.
Here are the suggestions that I have made. Please let me know if you have any ideas to add.
1) Don’t say that Sam is stupid of batshit crazy. This may encourage to kids to pick a side. If you are the one calling names – it may not be your side.
2) DO NOT under estimate the power of the fundie church program to suck the kids into the madness. You must take action and help the kids.
3) Expose the kids to other religions. Take them to different churches when you have them on Sunday. I suggested UU, Jewish, Islam, Methodist, Catholic etc…
4) Introduce the kids to optical illusion. Classic stuff as well as videos by Richard Wiseman.
5) Buy some magic tricks. Teach them that things are not always what they appear to be.
6) Listen to Letting Go of gOd by Julia Sweeney.
7) Watch Religulous (maybe too much for young viewers?)
8 ) Rent any movies you can find about Greek and Roman mythology.
9) Encourage the kids to ask questions – lots of questions.
10) Teach them about science and the scientific method. Watch shows like “Evolution” and “The Universe”. Make sure they know how the world really works before Sam explains it fundie style.
Do you have any other ideas?