Many religious people claim that without religion they would have no moral compass. Many people become more religious so they can have a moral compass, to overcome personal difficulties. Combine this with the desire for comfort and it is a potent mix. Yet, as more families grow up without religion they show they do quite well also, anyway.
Far from being dysfunctional, nihilistic and rudderless without the security and rectitude of religion, secular households provide a sound and solid foundation for children, according to Vern Bengston, a USC professor of gerontology and sociology….
He was surprised by what he found: High levels of family solidarity and emotional closeness between parents and nonreligious youth, and strong ethical standards and moral values that had been clearly articulated as they were imparted to the next generation.
“Many nonreligious parents were more coherent and passionate about their ethical principles than some of the ‘religious’ parents in our study,” Bengston told me. “The vast majority appeared to live goal-filled lives characterized by moral direction and sense of life having a purpose.”
This really should’t be a surprise as the diversity of religions through time has not shown any to be an obvious advantage even if one is extremely forgiving. The issue for many is not so much the past as now. Do religions help people now? That is, if we exclude the so called extremists and fundamentalists–which doesn’t seem quite fair.
Phil Zuckerman agrees.
My own ongoing research among secular Americans — as well as that of a handful of other social scientists who have only recently turned their gaze on secular culture — confirms that nonreligious family life is replete with its own sustaining moral values and enriching ethical precepts. Chief among those: rational problem solving, personal autonomy, independence of thought, avoidance of corporal punishment, a spirit of “questioning everything” and, far above all, empathy.
For secular people, morality is predicated on one simple principle: empathetic reciprocity, widely known as the Golden Rule. Treating other people as you would like to be treated. It is an ancient, universal ethical imperative. And it requires no supernatural beliefs. As one atheist mom who wanted to be identified only as Debbie told me: “The way we teach them what is right and what is wrong is by trying to instill a sense of empathy … how other people feel. You know, just trying to give them that sense of what it’s like to be on the other end of their actions. And I don’t see any need for God in that.
Many religious people will say these natural laws are just their religion for the unwashed. The Golden Rule is after all the Golden Rule. Yet if the Golden Rule is accessible without religion why have religion? Is that baggage helpful?
“If your morality is all tied in with God,” she continued, “what if you at some point start to question the existence of God? Does that mean your moral sense suddenly crumbles? The way we are teaching our children … no matter what they choose to believe later in life, even if they become religious or whatever, they are still going to have that system.”
Being good is something that occurs aside from religion not because of it.
Jim Newman, www.frontiersofreason.com