After nearly a week of digesting the news of Elliot Rodger’s mass murder and reading thousands of articles, posts, and tweets I am stupefied that misogyny is a questioned issue in our society, our world. While we seem more than able to admit that we are capitalistic, religion centered, and materialistic we seem unable to admit that Rodger’s hate crime was created, driven and fueled by misogyny. Further that our society is systemically infected with the disease of misogyny.
Regardless of whether or not misogyny stems from nature or nurture, Alda thinks it should be addressed in the same way humanity treats “the common cold” and “cancer.”
“We don’t accept those things,” he said, referring to those sicknesses. “Why should we accept this kind of behavior that leads to death and dismemberment, just because it’s common all over the world?”
“We could eradicate polio,” Alda added. “I don’t see why we can’t eradicate misogyny.”
While the news was obsessed with how mental illness and gun control are the issues the clearly rational and well thought reasons were misogynistic. In the same way that secularists say Islam, or Christianity, or even the belief and advocacy of supernaturalism, is the cause of horrific actions we can attribute horror and terror to misogyny being ever present, ever constant, and all pervasive. As we attack the texts and basic canons of religions for world woes we can attack the text and narratives of the misogynistic canon for abuse of women. There doesn’t have to be a sacred book (there are many anyway) to have an embedded narrative text of misogyny. Rodgers:
“I’m the perfect guy, and yet you throw yourselves at all these obnoxious men, instead of me, the supreme gentleman,” Rodger complained in the video. “I will punish all of you for it.”…“You denied me a happy life, and in turn, I will deny all of you life,” he threatened. “It’s only fair.”
“Perfect gentleman?” He was a damned loser who had no clue how to engage in society because he was stuck in entitlement, thinking women should flock to him because he was owed it. “Only fair?” This guy had money, status, and class yet he deserved more? More than what? To be king pimp or kill.
In Rodger’s case he was as clear as possible, with 137 pages of female hating and revenge screed, many videos, and chatter in pickup artist (PUA) sites. Lindsay Beyerstein.
Rodger told the world exactly why he went on this killing spree. He spelled it out in excruciating detail and sent his narrative of the killings to the media. In case that wasn’t enough, he made a series of YouTube videos to cement his narrative of his own crime in the public mind.
That anyone could read the news and think this is only a case of mental illness or gun control…the man used a knife to kill his three room mates. He crashed his car. Whatever weapon was present he would have used. Whatever therapy was given failed. What worked was the misogynistic ideology that led him through his actions. A PUA site before it went down said that Rodgers just hadn’t gamed properly.
In the long history of mass murder in the U.S., experts could not recall a more personal and minutely detailed explanation of motive than the one Rodger gave. Over the last few days, hundreds of thousands of people have scanned his writings and watched his videos as they try to make sense of the violence.
If someone isn’t getting it from this self avowed and oft repeated premise they need strong therapy themselves. Which means just about everyone in the media. “Make sense of the violence?” Hell, we get Kamikaze bombers, suicide bombers, men dying for causes all of the time but we are befuddled by why an asshole misogynist might kill women? Simply because he thinks women suck? Do we really need more? Wasn’t it just a month ago some boy killed a girl because she wouldn’t go to prom with him? Don’t boys glorify masculinity and killing things as normative thresholds of manhood? Isn’t hunting women too much like hunting animals, where gaming isn’t wooing but coercion because the end goal is conquest, consumption, and then moving on? Haven’t men been rewarded for aggression since time immemorial? Haven’t women been castigated for impeding men in their freedom while women have to hold the family together? Isn’t paternalism and patriarchy the lived structuralism of sex, status, and power over women? …
“Alpha,” PUA lingo for a dominant male, was in the video threatening the mass murder. Rodger identified as an “incel,” which means “involuntarily celibate,” a term that was developed on web-based bulletin boards devoted to PUA enthusiasts that weren’t finding much luck getting laid…
Pick-up artistry is a huge, if generally ignored industry, with self-appointed PUAs selling an endless stream of videos, books, and seminars purporting to teach “the game,” which is invariably packaged as a surefire way for men who learn it to get laid. PUAs like to portray themselves to outsiders as doing nothing more than trying to provide dating advice to men, in an environment where most dating advice is aimed at women. But there’s one major difference. Dating advice of the sort you find in Cosmo magazine and other women’s media usually starts from the premise that the advice-seeker has flaws that need to be fixed in order to make her more attractive. But pick-up artistry argues that men who can’t get laid are fine the way they are, and it’s women—the entire lot of them—who are broken. And that by accepting that women are the ones to blame here, the student of PUA can finally start getting the sex he feels entitled to.
Joyce Carol Oates:
Paradox that misogyny seems to be universal yet, universally, don’t infants unquestionably adore their mothers? Misogyny must come later.
Add to that the near 2 million responses on #YesAllWomen and anyone should be getting that women are pissed for righteous reasons.
- I shouldn’t have to hold my car keys in hand like a weapon & check over my shoulder every few seconds when I walk at night #YesAllWomen
- #yesallwomen because “I have a boyfriend” is more likely to get a guy to back off than “no”, because they respect other men more than women
- #YesAllWomen because even a taped confession admitting to raping me wasn’t enough to put him in jail.
- #yesallwomen because apparently the clothes I wear is a more valid form of consent than the words I say
- Not ALL men harass women. But ALL women have, at some point, been harassed by men. Food for thought. #YesAllWomen
- Because men don’t text eachother that they got home safe. #YesAllWomen
- a “cool story babe, now make me a sandwich” shirt doesn’t break the school dress code. a girl’s bra strap does. #yesallwomen
- Because women serving in the military shouldn’t fear getting raped by their colleagues more than they fear the enemy #YesAllWomen
- #YesAllWomen because we’re taught to fear if we don’t do everything “right” we asked for it if we get raped.
- When a woman makes a video, most comments are about tearing apart her looks. Or if they’d “do” her. With a man, almost none. #YesAllWomen
- Because I now wear shorts under dresses in crowded bars after being groped and even penetrated by unseen hands. #YesAllWomen
- Because a lot of you are reading these and thinking “ugh yeah, we get it. Calm down.” #YesAllWomen
These here are just their everyday issues. Not the horrific descriptions of rape, legal injustice, and domestic battering that at least 30% of women experience.
The pushback by the Men’s Rights Activist’s (MRA) and Men’s Right’s Movement (MRM) to the news was #NotAllMen. Which is total bullshit. I have never met a man who hasn’t in some way bought into misogyny–at best we are all recovering misogynists. Many if not all women as well. It’s part of the fabric of our society and tradition going back thousands of years. Hell, if you want to consider issues of raw, uncivilized power and status through sex and gender, millennia. That at least 70% of MRAs are atheists shows too well how no movement is free of misogyny. Indeed, it is exaggerated in atheism because men who leave religion still carry patriarchal baggage. They wear if with pride oblivious that they are scarred by what they hated.
Spearhead (note the hunter analogy where women are hunted and conquered like animals by manly men)
I’ve been listening to the NPR program Futrelle spoke on for a couple minutes yesterday, and man was it a bore. There’s a feminist named Soraya Chemaly who goes through the interminable feminist talking points, then Futrelle chimes in with his “expertise” on men’s sites, and finally this effeminate little guy named Robert Heasley who sounds like an old lady and somehow gets paid to run a “men’s studies” program.
You might think the point of the program is to single out guys who write on men’s issues or MRAs, but actually it’s almost entirely about how all men are to blame! Ironically, it’s exactly this attitude that pushed me into online men’s advocacy. Being part of the collectively “guilty” class can really suck. It has real life consequences, especially for men who go through divorce/custody disputes. As if having only a 10% chance of getting equal custody of your children is somehow a privilege…
Know why men aren’t give custody more often? Abuse and neglect. Too often children are manipulated in divorce. Too often the divorce is due to abuse or neglect from the father. Too often the father is acting on revenge. Too often paternal custody has failed. Too often it is an issue of conservative patriarchy. There is such a long history of poor paternal custody there needs to be proof that a system is in place that works. It is changing and the liberal arm of the Father’s Rights Movement may gain traction but don’t be surprised if you pay for the idiotic actions of your predecessors. You have to prove you’re the exception.
As if women don’t have real life consequences. 70 of the last 71 mass murderers have been men. Women make less then men. 2% of venture capital goes to women. Women are considered sexual objects and raped far more than men. Women are battered and abused far more then men. Women who happen to be people of color get it even worse. Hell, even the news of pedophilic Catholic priests talks over the greater abuse to women in Catholicism.
Why did men and some women hijack this time of mourning and expression for women? The inability for women take a turn and have their say without others interjecting or competing for attention is in itself a masculine trope. Whatever the hell happened to listening, respect, taking turns?
Women had to back peddle and say not all men harass but all women are harassed. Bullshit. I have never met a man who hasn’t done misogynist actions. I am a recovering misogynist and I fuck up. The word fuck is misogynistic. Why would anyone wish to take away the message of this incidence. This sick “me tooism” distracts from our focus to resolve the issue. You want to talk about misandry, misanthropy? Fine, but wait until it’s your damned turn. The denialism has been so blatant that its best use was to show that MRA men wear no clothes, naked in their arrogant stupidity, lack of concern, devoid of compassion.
The reason women mobilized so quickly after the shooting is because we recognized immediately the language and ideology in Rodger’s videos and manifesto: the over-the-top sexual entitlement; the rage against women who “dared” to reject him; the antiquated, but nonetheless terrifying, belief that women should not be in control of their own sexual choices. Regardless of Rodger’s mental health issues – which we still don’t know much about – his ideas were not “crazy” by the standards of the world today. They are the norm.
In On Point Soraya Chemaly is introduced as a “professional feminist.” What the hell is a professional feminist? Is she working for a company that hires feminists to lobby or advocate? Is David Silverman a professional atheist? Is the pope a professional Catholic? Is a professional plumber talking shit about plumbing? Even when bending over backwards men fuck up. Is careless brutality the best women can hope for? That has got to change.
Listen to the On Point Interview with Soraya Chemaly, David Futrelle, and Doctor Robert Heasley. This is the best summary I have found, at least the first part but then she’s a professional.
Jim Newman, bright and well www.frontiersforeason.com